Parenting - and all that pressure
Ive been pondering lately about all the parenting styles and all the usual questions "Am i doing this right? " and "Please don't let me screw up my kid". I have Miss18, who has recently made me a grandmother (if you have nothing nice to say then don't bother saying it), and Mr11.
Miss18 is your typical entitled, temperamental, bossy, over dramatic near- adult. She and her bf (a.k.a the idiot) separated almost 10 months after my moko was born. She has always done things the HARD way. If there was a race to get an elephant up a hill, she would push while the rest of us rode the elephant ( I blame her father's dna).
Mr11 is a clever little challenge. His father, who is the love of my life when he isnt annoying, has old fashioned ideas about the way men should treat the women in his life *sigh*. My sons father has taught Mr11 to open doors for ladies, carry luggage/shopping and all that kind of good stuff.
Obviously none of that applies to his sister. I do believe that I could very easily pull my own hair out trying to manage my 11-going-on-32 year old son and his 18-going-on-3 year old sister. As un-pc as it sounds, its moments like this that im grateful for technology. At least when they are playing games they arent bullying each other.
Miss18 lost her phone privileges recently for being particularly vile and difficult. She was being rude, and received 2 warnings before "Fine! You have lost your phone privileges for 3 days" left my mouth. She tried to shove me away from her phone. SHOVE! ME?! She attempted to get physical. Broke my heart.... Im still taking my time to recover from the emotional trauma of this horrific event..............ahem
So i took her phone. She tried again. I blocked her moves and she stormed out of the house. Oh the absolute drama of it all.
Do not fear. Her aunt lived around the corner, so I knew she would be fine.
But we were moving house the day after this altercation and she was supposed to be leaving town with us. What a nightmare.
Im just a person. As a parent im expected to have 'control' of my kids and situations and be all omnipotent and its RUBBISH! I am a person. Flesh, blood, experience, tears, laughter, pretty and ugly. Nothing in my life has me prepared for this.
Maybe ill give you some backstory next post ;)
Miss18 is your typical entitled, temperamental, bossy, over dramatic near- adult. She and her bf (a.k.a the idiot) separated almost 10 months after my moko was born. She has always done things the HARD way. If there was a race to get an elephant up a hill, she would push while the rest of us rode the elephant ( I blame her father's dna).
Mr11 is a clever little challenge. His father, who is the love of my life when he isnt annoying, has old fashioned ideas about the way men should treat the women in his life *sigh*. My sons father has taught Mr11 to open doors for ladies, carry luggage/shopping and all that kind of good stuff.
Obviously none of that applies to his sister. I do believe that I could very easily pull my own hair out trying to manage my 11-going-on-32 year old son and his 18-going-on-3 year old sister. As un-pc as it sounds, its moments like this that im grateful for technology. At least when they are playing games they arent bullying each other.
Miss18 lost her phone privileges recently for being particularly vile and difficult. She was being rude, and received 2 warnings before "Fine! You have lost your phone privileges for 3 days" left my mouth. She tried to shove me away from her phone. SHOVE! ME?! She attempted to get physical. Broke my heart.... Im still taking my time to recover from the emotional trauma of this horrific event..............ahem
So i took her phone. She tried again. I blocked her moves and she stormed out of the house. Oh the absolute drama of it all.
Do not fear. Her aunt lived around the corner, so I knew she would be fine.
But we were moving house the day after this altercation and she was supposed to be leaving town with us. What a nightmare.
Im just a person. As a parent im expected to have 'control' of my kids and situations and be all omnipotent and its RUBBISH! I am a person. Flesh, blood, experience, tears, laughter, pretty and ugly. Nothing in my life has me prepared for this.
Maybe ill give you some backstory next post ;)
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